life after death

To make a long story short: widowed twice in fifteen years, cancer twice in fifteen years, just lost my job, and my support system consists of a dog, a cat, and a horse.

I met a widower right after I was diagnosed with breast cancer. He loves me; I love him. We haven’t known each other but a few months. At the same time, we have done a lot of heavy lifting (navigating interfaith issues, the fact we both have PTSD from military service, him caring for me through my double mastectomy, etc.) I am very sure that the person I’m seeing is the person I’m getting.

The problem is this: his adult children (22 to 30) are all struggling with the idea of their father getting remarried in the [distant] future. He’s been widowed for three years and celibate for a decade. I’m the first person he’s dated seriously since his wife died. Cancer killed our spouses.

Has anyone dealt with anything similar?

It would be nice if this didn’t crash and burn because young adults decided that their parent’s life should remain frozen in amber.

If it does crash and burn, at least I have my animals to keep me company.