miserable in life and marriage and no matter what I do, it doesnt get better

I am truly miserable in my life and marriage. My husband has the career he loves, he gets to be away from the chaos of 3 kids, 2 dogs and life in general. He does not show me any affection or words of affirmation at all. Somehow every fight, every feeling, every emotion is my fault. I have given up absolutely everything in my life so that he can enjoy his life. I am stuck, I am lonely, no matter how much I try to explain how I am feeling, I am the bad guy. I have a full time job, im a full time student, a full time usually solo parent. I have no interests anymore. My husband has no idea who I am as a person and has created this horrible human he things I am in his mind and thats what he sticks to. There is no effort at all on his part and when he is home I am still the one doing all the work for the kids, cooking, cleaning, organizing, scheduling, buying the things our family needs. I just need connection, I need someone who sees me.