Is my marriage worth saving?

I got married as soon as I turned 20 years old. He was 29 at the time. It was a courthouse wedding, no wedding rings, no dress, no honeymoon, no witnesses. Not even my mom knew about it until 6 months after.
We were both young & broke so Chili’s was my venue. Just me and him.
13 years have passed & I never got my wedding ring, honey moon like he promised. No date nights unless I plan them which hasn’t happened in over 8 years because I realize I’ve been carrying this relationship.
In the whole trajectory of our marriage we only have gone on “vacation” like 6 times. & 3 of those were to visit his parents in Mexico. He brings home about $180k yearly. So money isn’t the issue.
Our last vacation was in 2024. Where he bought his parents a brand new car.
He visits them twice a year since then but no vacation with me or the kids.
He’s a great provider but not a good dad or partner. His excuse is that he wasn’t like raised like that &
His way of showing love is through providing but I used to tell him life has to be balanced.
Just last year I begged him to give me and the kids more of his time. His response was to “find someone who can love you the way you want to be love because his way of loving was different”
So I did just that. No. I didn’t cheat. I started to detach.
I started loving myself, prioritizing myself, my career and things are starting to look up for me. Last year I was 230 lbs & had no money. I fully depended on him. I opened a separate bank account and started working more hours. I lost 60 lbs, I go to the gym 4 times a week. I go out more with my sister & friends. We go to dinner & Pilates.
I love myself.
He hates that I go out with them but he also doesn’t do or plan anything fun or dates. A perfect night for him would be going out to dinner with me and the kids and then back home to have sex or watch tv.
It’s been a couple weeks that I set a boundary with him.
I’m not sleeping with him until I feel the emotional connection again.
Instead of him trying to get closer to me or planning dates etc. he’s giving me the cold shoulder.
He only gets close or talks to me when he wants to have sex. Since things don’t go his way he walks away & doesn’t talk to me for days. Unless he needs help with something related to his business.
He spends most sundays with his friends drinking, most evening in the room, garage or outside our patio.
For mother’s days he’s going to Mexico to surprise his mother.
He’s not trying ! We have 2 teen boys together & they have noticed us not sharing the same room.
I feel like I don’t love him. He have nothing in common besides the kids, house & business.
Is this worth saving? Or should I file for divorce?