Extra person in the house

I (F21) still live with my parents, I’m a university student na 2 years nagstop due to personal reasons and recently lang ulit ako nagcontinue. Yung course ko is madami talagang gastos kahit first term palang, which was expected since I was given a heads up naman when I enrolled pero what I wasn’t expecting was yung sabay sabay yung gastos (tuition, uniforms, contribution fees sa class, department events, etc). With my fully loaded academic schedule plus the department events, I couldn’t find even a part time job kasi wala talaga akong time to work and to tend to my academics. Since I’m behind 2 years na nga, I don’t want to lessen my academic load rin to delay graduating even more kaya full load talaga.

That being said, all financial lands on my parents. We’re a middle class family with a steady income from full time working parents so kaya naman namin i-pay yung need i-pay tsaka may leftover pa for wants every now and then. However, with the prices of things nowadays, even us, a middle class family is starting to struggle. Even ngayon, I need to budget my allowance a week kasi di na sya katulad dati na may matitira pa for next week kahit 500 lang a week allowance ko.

Despite being a middle class family, meron kami kasambahay. Mostly for chores lang and to lessen the daily/weekly loads like food and laundry since me and my younger sibling (F14) are both busy with academics, parents have full time jobs and we’re not at home 75% of the time. Need talaga ng extra help around the house. Of course, our kasambahay is kasama sa budget, her salary, even basic necessities like food, lodging, even sharable toiletries (shampoo, conditioner, toothpaste) provided namin.

However, lately, yung anak nya (F18) madalas nasa bahay. I would arrive home and magugulat nalang ako nasa living room namin yung anak nya. I thought na dumaan lang sa amin or something after school then uuwi rin sa kanila pero dito na rin bigla natutulog and naliligo. Before school dito galing, after school dito rin uwi. I have no problem with that naman pero medyo nagiging abusive and taking advantage na yung behavior nung girl and our kasambahay lately. I know for a fact na di kami nagkukulang sa salary ng nanay nya to provide for their family since may pang padeliver pa ng parcel almost every week. I get naman na they're struggling din pero we make sure naman that we give their family enough to get basic needs and all of that.

Since nga halos dito na rin tumira yung anak nya, ang bilis tuloy maubos ng basic needs ng family ko. Yung packs of conditioner dating halos a week and a half ko bago maubos, ngayon wala pang weekend ubos na. Even my skincare na dating months, nagiging weeks nalang cause imbis na twice a day lang nagagamit nagiging 4 times a day kasi pati yung anak nakikigamit rin. As a result, kumukuha tuloy ako sa allowance ko for academics to provide for my basic needs kapag nagugulat nalang akong ubos na. Yung mga wala dapat muna sa budget, biglang nasasama sa budget. Nahihiya rin naman akong mag-ask kila mom since ang gastos na nga, dadagdag pa ako even if kakabili lang last week.

Not only that, the anak also uses our hairbrushes, which I find so unsanitary kasi kahit suklay wala syang dala? Haba haba ng buhok nyang rebonded at may kulay, walang pambili ng suklay? Naka-shoulder bag pero walang laman na kahit anong basic needs nya from their house? The nanay, our kasambahay, also seems to enable it din. Hinahayaan lang nya yung anak nya na gamitin yung sa amin lang dapat as a family kahit na sinabihan ko na sya na baka pwedeng pagsabihan nya since dumadagdag sa gastos namin yung mga ginagamit nilang dalawang mag-ina on a daily basis.

Honestly, medyo napipikon na ako kasi instead na gamitin ko yung 50 pesos for transportation, nagagamit ko sa conditioner for the next 5 days dapat pero biglang mababawasan ng dalawa pag-uwi ko kaya extra 20 pesos nanaman. I honestly don't know what to do na, I want to ask mom to maybe get another kasambahay nalang kasi nagiging abusive na talaga yung behavior nila or to just ban the anak nalang sa bahay para mabawasan naman ng isang person sa bahay na hindi naman talaga kasi kasama sa budget in the first place. I know na ayaw rin naman ni mom na palitan yung kasambahay namin since she's been with us for years and she's basically a reliable person naman, yung pagiging take advantage lang talaga nya and her anak yung problem. Sure, we're helping them pero in return, kami yung nags-struggle financially.