I think my mom hates me, AITAH for removing her from my life?

So I (31F) am an only child to my parents, who are both nearly 70. My dad is amazing, but my mom never really liked me I don't think. She never played with me as a child (I'm talking about even once) because she was tired. She was constantly irritated and had no patience for me as a child. We constantly fought. I was called a b*tch the first time at age 9. Despite her being emotionally unavailable, she did every other aspect of being a mom. Made sure I was fed/healthy, kept the house in order, etc. She did say "I love you" but I've always felt a general disdain to my entire existence. When I was 17 she said I was a "waste of skin" because I didn't have a job.

Fast forward to now. I recently bought my first house and she's been helping me out a ton, unprompted. She will be like "hey can I come down this weekend" (they live an hour away) which im like, sure. Obviously it helps me out a ton, my mom has been doing Reno's her whole life. The problem is, I'm going through a lot emotionally. I went through a 7 year breakup and I'm depressed. When she comes to my house, she wants to work sun up to sun down. I'm not that way... I'm kind of lazy tbh plus with me being depressed, I can really only make myself do like a few hours of work on the house per day. I also work full-time and commute so I'm really tired.

Every single time my mom comes over and I'm not working as hard as she wants me, she blows up and says how I don't appreciate her and that I should be trying harder, etc. Whenever I come home from work like an hour late she would freak out and cry because she's "there by herself all day". I would always apologize but she doesn't understand. One time I just snapped and said OKAY GO HOME THEN! that was like a month ago and ever since, I've gotten the cold shoulder.

Yesterday I called her to smooth it over, I said I was calling to say I love you. Then she broke down, tore me apart over my "behaviour" (not working hard on my house + being late) and that I need to "dig deeper for my mom". I tried to explain there's no where deeper to go, I'm at the end emotionally.

Later on she messages me saying I should go to a doctor, maybe I'm deficient in something because it's not normal to "be this tired and moody all the time". I just want to say I don't have issues with anyone in my life except her, I'm not known for being a moody person. So all I said was "maybe you should", which set her off, saying my earlier call was bullshit and now I'm "back to being my real self".

That was it for me. That was the last straw. I'm dealing with a lot already, which I've explained a million times, and yet she still tries to shit on me. I blocked her.

However, I'm wondering if AITA here, because she is 70, she has been working a lot on my house and I understand it's frustrating when the homeowner isn't even putting in as much effort (but I truly never once asked her to do anything to my house). I just don't know. I feel like I overreated but at the same time I never really felt like she even liked me.