am i overcorrecting?
i’m very bad at articulating clearly and sometimes over explain so please bare with me i’m sorry if this is hard to read i can clearly anything up in comments!
i’m on a throwaway bc my bf knows my main reddit. i (20f) and my bf (20m) have been together for 2 years and do not live together but he is at my house basically daily. last night we had a conversation about how he wants to go home every once in awhile bc his stuff isn’t here (very fair), i have a lot of things and i would say verging on hoarder and so my room is very much my room and would be hard for him to feel at home in. i was talking about options to make him feel like he has more of his stuff here (not to force him to be here all the time but he is right, he’s here almost all the time but he’s in MY room instead of his). i live with my parents so it’s not like he can move in so instead i have cleared out some of dresser and cubbies in my room so he can leave some of his stuff here if he wants. i just worry that after the conversation he might think im just doing it so he has to stay here all the time but i just want him to feel more comfortable when he is here.
tl;dr bf wants to go home sometimes (valid) bc my room is not his, i have cleared out some of my room for his stuff and am worried he might think i am doing it to make him stay here instead of just bc i want him to feel more at home.
Posted May 1, 2026, 11:27 AM UTC