Best place to chat with other kinky folks on reddit? (20f)

Hi there!! First time posting here after lurking for a while, I assume this may have been asked before but I haven't seen it and I've been really struggling to find a place!

I'm looking for subreddits that are the best places to connect with other nsfw/kink/fetish lovers here on reddit. Specifically, I'm hoping to find one that isn't just for roleplaying or sexting- I want to actually chat about kink! Most places only allow you to post if you have some sort of plot or reference with it, and I'm just not always looking to commit to a roleplay, y'know?

This subreddit is great for smaller discussions, but I assume they don't really want "I'm into ___ lets chat in dms" posts here, especially since those sometimes are a scammer thing. So I was hoping to find a place where I wouldn't be annoying anyone or breaking any rules. I know I'm being a little picky, but if anyone knows of a good place that fits this idea, definitely share in the comments or my dms!! Thank you so much for reading :)