AIO for being bothered by boyfriend calling me obsessive?

I'm 27F he's 26M and we've been dating almost a year ldr. We love each other very much and I am vety much in love with him, I appreciate him for his kindness and his personality. He's one of my favourite people on earth and I know the same applies for him as he's told me.

We're usually very happy but fights happen here and there sometimes like inequality in labor whenever we meet i.e. I'll be doing more of the chores and our other fights are mostly because I'm anxiously attached with R-OCD and sometimes I get insecure, slightly jealous and sad over some things.

Since we became exclusive we've been talking everyday and spend most of our free times on the phone videocalling for hours, and playing games etc. First thing he does when he comes home is to either send me an audio or videocall me and same goes for me.

Yesterday we were both working, him in the morning until evening and me in the evening until night.

He sent me an audio at 6.30pm saying that he was on his way home from work (10' by car) and he'd text me when he came home. I texted back at 7pm and got no reply then I was finally home about 9.30pm and texted him again asking if everything was OK because he wasn't answering and didn't text me as he said when he arrived. I videocalled him and he didn't respond until 5 min later when he called me back.

He said he left his phone at his desk and lied down in bed and scrolled on his second phone for more than an hour and that's why he didn't text me. And that he didn't see that I was videocalling him and he randomly got up and saw that I called him and he called me back.

Generally I have no reason to think he's avoiding me but I felt a bit like that's what was going on and I asked him why he didn't text me when he arrived home or the rest of the time he was home. He said he forgot. But we never forget each other. And I get it, to someone reading this it might seem odd but I was just not expecting a change of behaviour because always we'll call each other or text when we arrive home.

I admit I acted a bit too emotional, thinking that he was lying to me, I was a bit serious and sad and he explained that he just forgot and left his phone far away. Then he said "I think you're a little obsessed with me" not as a joke, he meant it.

I felt very hurt hearing that and it seemed a bit narcissistic on his part to say that. I am just used to the way things were and was surprised he didn't reach out when he said he would. Also I never forget about him and I thought he never forgot about me either, until now when he said he does sometimes.

I just felt like suddenly I am more into him and care more, while that's not necessarily the case that's how it feels. I don't wanna make him feel smothered or that im policing him but sometimes I admit I get a bit controlling and I hate that i am ao insecure and act like this.

I still think that calling me obsessive was an exaggeration and an unkind thing to say. This makes me want to withdraw and avoid him although that's childish and not a healthy coping mechanism. I know I might sound exhausting to some readers...

AIO?