Why IS IT SO HARD TO GET TESTED? HELP?!!! GENITAL HERPES ADVICE?

im extremely frustrated!! i have genital herpes symptoms!! but no blisters or ulcers they feel like not swabbing me or anything i do feel a few things down there and nobody wants to look the only one that did was std sti clinic an i went there on the 5 day of my “ symptoms “ i do have oshv1 and worried i transferred it genitally. i just wanna make sure!!!!! i cant do the blood test cause i wouldnt know where it would be…. sti clinic didnt swab me for hsv she looked deep inside an didnt see a thing its been over 20 days. no blisters no sores no anything any advice?