I’m genuinely done atp

I’m genuinely so fucking done, i try and tell people how i feel and all i get in return is how much im trying to argue and how im being bitchy and bla bla bla. Like jesus christ can i never talk?? like genuinely wtf.

Today is my friends bday, we’re usually a bit flirty so i flirted w him and he js was dismissive. i asked why n if he didn’t want me to flirt n he said he didn’t mind it he js doesn’t like like me currently. So i said i wont flirt 🤷‍♀️. This guy says, no it’s fine i don’t mind, but i explained to him how it’s odd to flirt w someone if they don’t flirt back. He started saying i was making passive agressive comments and that he doesn’t wanna talk abt ts on his bday. So i cut the conversation. I later ask if he wants to play video games when he’s free because yesterday he said we can play games all day on his birthday. I said it nicely and i added a :3 at the end and said i missed talking to him cuz he’d been busy. All i get was “yeah if im free im down.” so i js said ok. (mind you we used to be super flirty with each other prior to just this week.) Bro responds w “alright” so i said “mhm”. He leaves me on opened. I say “do you not want to talk much today?” no reply. “do u still wanna play siege when i get home if ur still around?” no reply. “well im home :/“.

“im going out with friends” i say “i know, when?” i js get a “now” so i say “do you want me to leave u alone for today you seem dismissive?” he says to me… “you’ve been very passive aggressive and im not dealing with that today.” i get upset because all i’ve been trying to do is talk to him on his bday like he literally asked yesterday. I ask him how im being passive aggressive and that he’s been being really dismissive and yada yada. all he says is “yet here we are arguing”

Were we fucking arguing?????? i just asked if he wanted me to leave him alone and he js basically says he doesn’t wanna deal w me today? how tf

I told him i js wanted to talk and he says “well ur being passive aggressive bcs when i said ill be free you just said okay” bitch what the fuck else am i supposed to say. i literally said that (in a less direct bitchy tone) and bro says “smthing better than ok”
which he literally reply’s with ok to shit i say 24/7 and if i get upset abt it mf says the same shit “well idk what else to say” so how the fuck- anyways I said that basically then said “look ur obviously fed up with me so ig i’ll leave u alone, i’ve done nothing but try and be nice i js said one thing abt how i was feeling and ur still being so dismissive. So js have fun talk to me when u want. I’m sorry i upset u im js tryna talk.” he says “right” so i don’t leave him alone and end up saying more.

I basically replied to my old chats and asked how im being passive aggressive and such and that i didn’t want to argue and i said that multiple times but here he is making things weird and being dismissive and such. he says “It’s been more then the ok, I’m not tryna make you into a bad guy but ur sitting here arguing with me cuz I didn’t respond for 20 minutes” i say im not tryna argue he said well i am “you sit here saying you’ll leave me alone then send me multiple paragraphs. you’re trying to argue.”

i started getting annoyed n said “im not but wtvr” we talked a little more back n fourth abt some same shit, he said something like “ I told you it makes me feel bad cuz ur like assuming how I felt about it and then being like “well I guess I won’t” which comes off bitchy”. i said sum like “i don’t want u to hate me and all day it feels like you do.” he said “i don’t hate you but im sick of this shit. I say I don’t wanna argue and shit and you argue with me over small shit.” i say “it’s not even arguing it’s a discussion.” he says.

“It’s my birthday, I told you wayyy before this at the first talk I didn’t wanna do stuff like this today. No it isn’t a discussion i’m fucking pissed.”

i js said oh. and he ends up going off sorta.

“It would’ve been so easy to have a nice day today but instead you had to argue with me about me and say shit I don’t understand how you didn’t know would be upsetting. “I feel you like me less cuz you don’t text me” when I’ve told you every reason I’ve been busy. You say I’m dissmissing how you feel and shit when earlier I literally said how I know you’re tryna tell me how you feel but then explained why it upset me.”

i js said im sorry and he said whatever im done with this conversation.

I just don’t fucking understand how i was arguing and instigating. I wished him happy bday at 12am and even this morning. I was saying such nice things and he was being so dismissive so i js asked him abt it basically and it turned into this whole thing. He was always so kind and talked to me sm and now it seems like he js wants me gone.

Please be honest, am i the one starting problems???? should i have js kept my mouth shut or something?? i dont understand what im doing wrong.