I, (22F) am worried about my childhood friend (21F) how can I support her?

For context, a little bit about me and her.

We have know each other our whole lives. We were home schooled together, did everything together, etc. She has always had a completely different family dynamic and I can understand from a psychological perspective why she is the way she is.

She was told basically since she hit puberty that she was always "showing too much" and her mother, let's call her Terry, even had the audacity to call her own daughter a "whore" and "slut" because of how she presented herself in school, claiming that she would get pregnant in high school because of the way she acted. Terry was CONSTANTLY on her about her appearance, how much she weighed, how pretty she was, etc, and this affected literally everyone around her, because I have some self image issues as well because of Terry specifically.

She was always flirtatious, always had a bubbly, very friendly, outgoing personality. She was also very pretty and was always popular with boys. That, and she is a HARDCORE people pleaser.

My issue now is this. She has expressed concerns about her lifestyle well... her whole life. Since getting out of school, she's been surrounded in bad influences and unsupportive, toxic people. I have always been the best friend I knew how to be, but I live hours away from her. It's extremely hard to be a "good influence" when I can't be there in person. (She is NOT a technology person. She has to be spoken to.)

over the past couple of years it seems to just get worse. Understandably, her value ​in herself comes from sex. Being wanted by a male partner.

This eventually did lead to her getting pregnant. She was 19. Now, she has a beautiful baby boy that I think was the right thing, it made her grow up a lot and definitely gave her a reason to rethink her personal decisions. But it's not working.

She is still consistently sleeping around with guys. I am not judging her for this. But she is also traveling to other places (literally did a 16hr overnight drive to CA to have an orgy with her friend) WITH her child, and I cannot get past that.

I somehow talked her out of any kind of that activity and they ended up just having a nice vacation. I was so proud of her. And we ended up getting into a deeper conversation about how that made her feel.

She said she wants something real. She wants something she can trust, something consistent. But she doesn't think she can trust herself. Someone had talked to her about "exploring possibilities" and marriage being something that she gets "stuck in" and "what if you get stuck with someone who is shit at sex" and I had to ask her what her priorities were.

"Do you want a pleasure farm, or do you want a father to your child? Because there is a possibility that you will not get both, and it's not just about you anymore."

She thought about it for a long time. She told me, "I want a man who will love me and my boy, but I love the freedom of doing whatever I want. And I can't just stop doing this"

I told her: "I know you can't. This is a form of addiction. You do not have to just stop. Ease yourself out of it. Say no ONCE, like you did on that trip to California."

"But I can't say no. I can prevent myself from initiating, but I can't prevent myself if he initiated first."

I told her again, "All you have to do is practice. Say no once, that will be hard. Say no twice, even harder. By the third time it will be easier."

I can only hope that made it through to her. But then she told me the other week that she and her "friend" did another 7hr drive to meet up with some guys.

And I feel hopeless. When I talked to her, she seemed to really think about my advice. She seemed to take it the way I wanted her to.

I have mentioned that her other friends are a bad influence to her. I said it directly. She said I was right, and she doesn't know how I do it. She was the bad influence on me.

I told her I am not influenced by her. I don't let myself do things just because she does. And she seemed to believe that wasn't something possible for her to adopt from me.

So I told her I will continue to be a good influence on her. Give her the support that she longs for but isn't given by other people.

But after that long conversation, and then her going to do that exact thing we talked about... shamelessly? Consistently? With the same friend?

Regardless of the activities those two do together, I cannot ask her to drop this friend. She has been supportive and has been a good friend in person when I cannot. She has gotten my friend out of bad situations and all I have is respect for her. But she is also the kind of person that will continue with her lifestyle WITHOUT judging my friend for not joining her. This friend invited me to an orgy too, and I said no, but she told me she just wanted me to be included and figured she'd ask. I don't feel like dropping the friend here is the answer, (i know reddit, i know) but i would like any advice anyone can give.​

I don't know what to do anymore. It might be fine now, but her son is soon at an age that he will remember things. I don't know the extent he is exposed to. All I know is that this spiral is a trap, a hole that is hard to get out of, especially for her. How do I support her in ways that gently guide her out of that lifestyle? Not just because I want it for her, not just because of her son, but because she has expressed that she feels hollow because of it?