Relational blind spot investigator tools?

Hey guys. I'm new here. Context on me: I’m AuDHD-adjacent (not diagnosed, but highly suspected, check all the boxes, etc.).

I’m building a thing to hopefully address a problem I've experienced most of my life, and that has caused me a great deal of grief and confusion: that helpless WTF spiral when a conversation goes totally sideways, or a social dynamic gets weird, and I have absolutely no idea what subtext got missed.

I'm a technologist who loves rabbit holes, so I'm building a relational blind spot investigator: basically a private copilot/sounding board to help decode potential hidden dynamics and figure out a couple of potential solves. Instead of validation slop, just: let's Socratically get down to what you might have missed and what else might have been going on -- and what to try next time. Even if the initial read is wrong, I suspect the process itself might teach a method of widening the social aperture and improve social fluency over time.

I need 10 to 20 people who also deal with this to help me test a super early, manual version of it. Anyone down to try it out with me?

Also, has anyone found solutions that actually solve relational pain, instead of just salving it?