I can't win yet...but I haven't lost either. (Need to beat the he/him allegations.)

I need to be more femme, but I don't have any money, so no option for femme clothes.

I hate all the "this is [necronym]", "blah blah blah, he blah blah blah", "that's your brother", etc., and I don't know what I can do to retain my sanity by being more femme, more me, less what-my-family-thinks-I-am.

plz hlp