Cereal for dinner. A mix of healthy granola and frosted mini wheats with protein milk, because comfort food was needed, but I still got goals.

I’ve been talking to a guy for three weeks now. We met up twice early on, we have been physical but haven’t had sex. I really like him, but he is anxious. In person he is great, he’s flirty and communicates his wants very well. He’s funny, kind, thoughtful, and doesn’t fight me. I tend to intimidate a lot of men and usually am put off by them right away. So, this time it felt different.   
We’ve both been busy lately and have only had time to text or call. The texts are fun, but quickly escalated into what felt like love bombing. I asked for us to slow down and brought up one specific example of the love bombing, but didn’t call it that. He admitted that he has love bombed in the past, but that the comment he’d made was more of an observance he made about wanting to come home to me and how nice that would be. But he said he could see how it would feel intense. He is open to slowing down and limiting the texting.   
So, we tried phone calls, and they quickly turned into these weird confessions about not wanting a relationship. I confessed that I didn’t know what this was and that I didn’t know what a relationship looks like in the beginning. He confessed that he might not be around later… but that I would be good for him because of various reasons. All I kept hearing is how I could benefit him, and nothing about why he even likes me. I told him this conversation doesn’t feel great, and that I feel like he’s pushing me away and I won’t fight him on that. He got worried that I was upset. I told him that I wasn’t mad about it, but I think we should stop talking. He said okay we ended the phone call. He text me immediately after apologizing and telling me that it all came out wrong. I asked what  he really wanted. He apologized and led with that he’s not himself on these phone calls, I’m pretty sure he has adhd and anxiety. He said that he wants to be better and treat me better, that he will try. I told him we are good, no more phone calls, and that I’d check in with him in a few days.   
I checked in and it was good. But, now I don’t know what to do. I still am open to see where it goes, but also just not sure. I want to tell myself that as long as he’s openly communicating and trying to be in this thing I am open to trying to. But, it’s scary. I’ve only been in fast relationships and this feels weird.   
TIA for listening/reading … from a possible avoidant who loves reading everyone else’s thoughts and stories 

The guy is even more anxious than I am