Reassurance that your partner really is kinky is the best feeling

I love it when my sub/wife shows me with her actions that she really is kinky. It makes me feel so much more secure in our dynamic and confident as her Dom.

Externally, she presents as pure vanilla. I’m more kinky than her, and I usually have a higher libido too. She says she doesn’t have many sex fantasies, and she rarely masturbates. Most of the ideas for our dynamic come from me. So sometimes I have this lingering worry that she only does BDSM with me because I’m pushing her into it. That she doesn’t actually want to do all these kinky things, but she’s humoring me.

…And then she unexpectedly goes and does things that show me she really is ridiculously kinky in her own right. That she eagerly shares my kinks and loves being my sub.

Like when she sneaks in calling me Daddy when I’m not expecting it. Or when I read her mood and think she doesn’t want to play, and she surprises me by initiating sex and saying she needs her Dom. Or when we’re having vanilla ish sex, and she abruptly starts talking super dirty and begs to be spanked or fucked in the ass. Or when we’re discussing our dynamic, and she tells me unprompted that she wants her orgasms to belong to me. Or when I float a scene idea that I’m not sure she’ll go for, and she’s not only cool with it, but has suggestions to make it even hotter.

I love it when she surprises me like this, because it shows me that she is enthusiastically on board with our D/s dynamic. And that is the best feeling.

Does anyone else relate to feeling reassured by it when your partner unexpectedly does kinky things?