My 23M gf 23F takes min 6 hours of times daily

She is someone who is been depreived of love all her life, by friends, by family, basically everyone. Whereever she finds a little bit of love, for example her parents, she just switch sides, else they are her mortal enemies.

Me on the other hand, I have been relatively happy with my friends and family. I don’t have much expectations from most people. I wanted a normal relationship where I can talk about anything and feel safe.

Its been close to 3 years in our relationship, and here’s the problems:

1. She needs a lot of time, avg of 6 hours. In the start of our relationship she used to force me to see her everyday by emotionally demanding my presence. I also used gave in and deprioritise everything and give her time. That has taken a major hit on my finances. I had $25k savings with $100k business income, now im in $20k debt with no income. Ps, she couldn’t find a job in 2 years. I know I sound inconsiderate but she applies 1 job and hooks on it for 6 months, before the finally find a new candidate. This is a pattern.

2. My parents are exactly the same as her, emotionally and financially demanding. Its a big tug fight between the 2, who gets my attention. I have chosen her all the times over them; but just both the parties don’t trust me.

3. Coming back to the financial part; I had to move to my parents house as I am close to not making any payments to the bank. Honestly i can make the money back but im not able to focus at all; the moment i try to focus, my gf just want something from me, either talk to her, comfort her, etc etc. If I don’t then we fight and another set of 6 hours vanishes from my life.

4. Now if I want to get away from my parents and marry my gf, her parents wants me to be earning well and having a lot of money in my pocket. Again here gf, who was manipulated again with love from her parents, about the expectations.

5. Second reason for me to come to my parents house is to start from scratch like did when i was 19. But i feel like I am gonna go bankrupt this time. Because I made a lot of connections over the time; since I have deprioritised them several times due to my gfs wishes. They don’t pick up my call, the same goes for my friends.

share your honest advice, i have 1 more month before I start missing on my debt payments. or am i totally insane to think in such manner?