I 29F have been dating 32M for 4 years. He keeps promising to propose but hasn’t (always a different reason). Advice?

He knows I want to get married and always says he’ll do it “after” some sort of milestone: such as “making enough money” “after I graduate grad school” “after I finish rehab” (he had a brief drug issue last year).

I have been waiting for a proposal since last Spring, but he’s flaked.

He just keeps flaking.

We’ve lived together for 6 years… I love him. He gets all the benefits of marriage except no commitment. I almost feel like I don’t want to get married to him anymore because of how many times I’ve seen him promise to marry me on X date and then flake.

Please help.

I feel like a fool because I am so hopelessly in love with this man who just keeps kicking the can down the road