I [25f] just found something REALLY disgusting this morning that my boyfriend [26m] left in the living room

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I [25f] just found something REALLY disgusting this morning that my boyfriend [26m] left in the living room.

TRIGGER WARNING: >!piss jar!<

Original Post March 14, 2013

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we've been living together for the past few months. Now, generally I've come to accept him for being a 'guy' and not cleaning up after himself. He has got a lot better at it though so I'll give him that. Anyway, this morning I went downstairs as usual to clean up a bit and when I went to pick up the remote off the floor I noticed a white mcdonalds cup sitting next to the chair. Thinking it was just a left over drink I went to go dump it in the sink only to realize that there was piss in the cup. I'm not sure how long it was sitting behind the chair but it smelled REALLY bad. It was pretty much full with ashes at the bottom of it [he smokes]. I don't really know how to go about talking to him about this or how to even bring it up. Advice anyone?

tl;dr Found boyfriends piss cup behind a chair in the living room. Not sure how to ask him about it? REALLY grossed out.

RELEVANT COMMENTS

colakoala200

"Not sure how to ask him about it?"

Don't ask, tell. "boyfriend, I was cleaning up the other day and I found a cup behind the chair and it smelled like 3-week old piss and had cigarette ashes in it. It smelled REALLY bad and I'm really grossed out."

You don't need to know if it's piss or how long it's been there or whether he'll clean up next time or why he didn't clean it up this time. You need HIM to know how finding something so nasty affected YOU.

OOP

Instead of calling him on the phone and yelling in his fucking ear about it (which I really wanted to do when I first found it) I wanted to think about what I was going to say before I let him know that I found the 'cup'. Thanks for giving me some idea on what to say.

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[deleted]

"Now, generally I've come to accept him for being a 'guy' and not cleaning up after himself."

He's not a 'guy', he's a fucking slob.

diego_montoya_jr

Slob is right. I once found a pile of snipped off toe nails on our coffee table once and I thought THAT was disgusting. I don't know what I'd do if I found what OP discovered.

And no smoking in the house either! Blargh.

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Crowmagnon0

You say there were ashes in it? Cigarettes will leave a clear liquid yellow, and it would definitely smell bad. Are you sure that he urinated in it and it wasn't just his ashtray? Either way it's gross, but that would make a lot more sense.

OOP

Oh yeah.. it was legit piss believe me. I couldn't smell it at first because there was a lid on the cup. But after I poured it in the kitchen sink i knew that i had made a terrible mistake :/

Crowmagnon0

Was he getting drunk last night? Not that it's an excuse, but it would give a reason for this.

OOP

No he doesn't drink. There shouldn't be ANY excuse for him to piss in a cup when our bathroom is 30 ft. away. I'm just in shock that anyone especially the person I'm living with would do this.

EDIT First of all thank you to everyone who left helpful comments on what to do in this situation. I'll be speaking to him about this in the morning. I will definitely post an update first thing. Thanks again! I really appreciate it.

Update - rareddit March 15, 2013 (Next Day)

So an update from my [original post](

First I just want to say thank you for all the helpful responses that I received yesterday. I've never in my life had to deal with a situation like this. I also hope it is the last time as well.

As soon as he got home from work this morning I told him that we needed to have a serious conversation. We both sat down and I told him that I found the cup he had been pissing in behind the chair. That it was the most disgusting thing I had ever seen and I was repulsed that he would actually do something like that when we have a perfectly working bathroom upstairs. He started to actually DEFEND himself as to why he was using it! I tried to stay calm but I couldn't anymore and eventually it turned into a heated argument. He stated that the cup was easier to use than going upstairs to use our bathroom which is seriously 30 ft away!! And he usually dumps it in the KITCHEN SINK when he's finished.. W.T.F. That right there was a deal breaker for me. This has been going on for quite some time. Upon further inspection where I originally found the cup I could clearly see urine stains on the floor. How I didn't know about this sooner I don't know. But I'm really glad that I do now. I can't continue to live with this sick fuck any longer. I'll be moving my things out today and will be staying with a friend for the time being.

TL;DR Boyfriend defended himself about using his piss cup instead of going to the bathroom like a normal person. He had been doing it for some time now. We broke up and I'm moving out.

FINAL COMMENTS

InfernalWedgie

The moral of the story: Being toilet trained is essential if you want to appeal to potential sexual partners.

_some_asshole

That is actually the only takeaway here.

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