Does anyone else feel like they arent attractive at all? How do you guys deal with those feelings?

From the type that I was younger, I have always felt that I was not attractive. Now I dont mean that I am obsessed with my looks although I do put a lot of effort into my appearance. I do the basics like get a haircut, shower, cologne, pedicures, and skin care routine. I also hit the gym and stay lean.

However, with age ironically, I have developed more insecurities than when I was younger.

1. I am starting to develop a gut. Partially my fault for drinking for the first time and eating unhealthy. Medicine is stressing me out so I gave into earthly desires. But some of it is genetic. In my family, the men tend to develop a gut even when skinny. Its weird because my grandfather has a skinny frame with a big stomach. So does my father. So I am starting to get worried because I have been skinny my entire life. Another reason I say that its stress related is because my weight hasnt changed. I am only 5ish pounds heavier than less year. So my fat disruption is changing not my weight. Regardless, I am about to hit the gym harder and cut out the alcohol.

2. I have fat cheeks. I look like a boy. People tend to think that I am 10 yrs younger than I am. So I wonder how many women probably think I am too younger for them. I wish I had a square jaw line

3. My hair is wild. I can never wake up and go outside. I have to be in the mirror for at least 30 minutes or else it won't look good.

4. Lastly, I dont have the best social skills. I am not awkward by no means. But no one likes being friends with me. Since this is reddit, I will clarify again. What I mean is people like talking to me, but they dont want to be friends. For my club, people wanting me to be president and I chose not to. However, no one is inviting out to a party.

I dont get any matches on online dating, and I will think all photos of me are ugly. This is me being realistic by the way. I don't lack confidence in the sense that I am walking around with a woe as me attitude. So pls not comment, "you just need confidence" or "Confidence is sexy".

The idea that a woman has a crush about me or thinks about me sexually is a foreign concept. In fact, if a woman ever said that. I wouldn't even know how to react.