after 3 years of emotional manipulation i finally cut off my sister

i’ve come such a long way man. for context i come from extremely dysfunctional household but were well off. i moved to another state to escape the chaos but i always wondered why i felt like i never left.

a few nights ago i finally realized a big reason why. my sister would call me all the time to just talk about “fixing the family” when i just wanted to be left alone and distance myself. she chose to stay at our home town and my parents bother decided to live in our home country full time. it’s like every time i call her she’s always venting about SOMETHING family related knowing the ptsd i have was so severely i ended up with brain damage.

these convos would re trigger me and i wouldn’t even know. we would be talking in circles about how our childhoods went and she created this whole delusional narrative about it. she keeps on re triggering herself too trying to fix what’s broken.

that’s not really why i blocked her this time. my final straw was her saying that my dad has blood cancer and was diagnosed 6 months ago when she visited him in our home country without telling me.

she made it seem like it was over for him and his is why we need to “fix the family” and have another “family meeting” i crashed tf out and yelled at everyone over the phone for not telling me this THEN i find out that it’s not even completely true. he does have it but it’s completely treatable and his doctors told him it’s under control.

i blocked her. i nearly had a fucking panic attack especially dealing with finals and a spine injury THAT SHE KNEW ABOUT. i don’t think this type of relationship is worth salvaging if she’s willing to go this far to get what she wants.