Biw is the dead friends?

When the BIW told Christopher the secrets and Victor told Mirands everyone died because "knowledge comes at a cost."

I think father kahtri, Jim, bartender dude are the BIW. He is not directly telling them but giving leading advise. Thats until its Ethan and he has to tell him about the lake of tears because even he knows reappearing as dead dad more than once is too far. Jim also was more child like when talking to Ethan. Like a friend that really wanted to help but knew he was causing pain. Didn't feel like Jim.

I personally dont think he is bad but not opposed to being wrong. He is not telling anyone to kill children or kidnap women and force birth a demon so im willing to be on his side, hesitantly.