Can you stay friends with a guy you met on a dating app?
So I matched with this guy on a dating app and we immediately clicked. We texted so much for a few days and then went on a date but I immediately lost any attraction I felt based on his pictures and how he was on text. He’s a genuinely great guy, it’s just that his energy in person is completely different and I know the way I feel won’t change. Before the date I had told him I would like to stay friends if something feels off (because we have great conversations and a lot in common) so when I admitted I am no longer interested romantically he asked to stay friends and I agreed. Honestly I suggested that out of doubt he would like me and I did not really imagine a situation where I would not be attracted to him at all and he would end up being even more into me. And now I can still feel that since almost nothing changed after that conversation, like he texts a lot, is extremely interested in everything related to me and keeps making plans. We even went out again and had a good time but I just can’t ignore the mismatch in our feelings, investment and what we want from each other and it makes me feel uncomfortable. Because even though he’s not flirting or pushing for more the way he treats me is still far from friendly. Will he lose interest if we keep going like this and he still sees nothing on my part? Or should I distance myself?
Posted May 2, 2026, 2:08 PM UTC