Three guys from the same group all recently asked me out. How do I maneuver this?

Hi everyone. I (25F) recently joined a cultural/slightly religious group and went to two events around us holidays. It’s been fun! I’ve been in contact with some of the people I met, including three guys.

They all three have essentially asked me out within the last week. I believe they’re all acquaintances with each other, not friends, but I’m not 100%. I’m a little overwhelmed but flattered. The first guy I knew was into me at the event itself. I’m autistic and miss things but didn’t miss that for sure, lol. The second guy I just thought seemed friendly and extroverted because he was like that with everyone. The third guy I liked talking to especially and kind of sleuthed out his Instagram because of it. I think they’re all nice and likable.

Here’s some relevant background. I’ve dated a little, but never been in anything close to an intimate relationship (there was one weird emotional situationship, but doesn’t count). This is mostly because I’ve had severe PTSD since I was 10 years old due to my terrifying father, which made me avoidant. He was pretty scary and awful to me my whole life (I was the “scapegoat”), but that period in particular was terrible since he was on a new drug that made him crazy. It was bad enough we all thought he would become a family annihilator, basically, and I was constantly in fear of my life and my mom’s and brother’s. He died suddenly when I was 12.

So I accidentally ended up pulling away from potential relationships without realizing what I was doing because I get this panic response where I feel trapped. I also realized I didn’t want to burden guys with these issues so I pulled away. But I’ve been in EMDR in the last 6-8 months or so and have made good progress! My PTSD is definitely less severe now, but not cured.

That’s all to say that this is new to me, and I’m anxious. I don’t want to cause drama for this group at all. I have nothing against any of these guys—I just truly don’t develop attraction or feelings right away, so I don’t know how I feel about any of them exactly, since I met them casually either once or twice. I feel like I would have to meet them more seriously to see, but I also don’t want to date around this group and cause issues where I’d then have to leave. There can be anywhere from 20 to like over 100 people that show up, so at least not a tiny group. I am also autistic so I sometimes miss some social nuances on how to proceed.

I’d appreciate any and all advice!

Posted May 2, 2026, 2:10 PM UTC

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