How should I handle someone who keeps disappearing and reappearing?

I’ve been talking to a guy who tends to disappear for days, then comes back casually like nothing happened. When we talk, it’s friendly but pretty surface-level (good mornings, small talk), and there’s no real follow-through or plans.

I don’t chase, but I do reply when he reaches out. I’m starting to notice a pattern where he engages when it’s convenient, then fades again.

I’m trying to figure out the best way to handle this kind of dynamic. Should I continue replying casually, match his level of effort, or step back entirely?

Would appreciate practical advice on how to deal with this without overreacting or investing too much.

Posted May 5, 2026, 5:19 PM UTC

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