Getting through it

Hello all,

This divorce process has been something it all started back in the start of 2025 when I found out my stbxw met up with a childhood friend in a truck back in nov 24 and never told me about it. Found out on her snap chat, the guy always had a thing for her, she said she was assaulted I gave her a chance for the kids, we have a 3 going on 4 year old and she has a 10 year old. We went to counseling and it started to get better but once she thought I was past it she went back to her way of life. Now I know its a two way street and I am at fault as well, but a big issues was she never thought what she did was wrong, she said she didnt sleep with the guy and in the deposition found out that was true, but it was still cheating.

She goes back to how she was, she had a job that greatly underpaid her but it gave her a title she would stay there all day, come home ignore the kids and then get on the phone and talk gossip with her co workers. I worked from home, took care of both kids and since I made way more money covered majority of the bills. One of my fav statements she would say after she put things on affirm or needed to buy something, I had to make more money that was her comment. Eventually she gets fired from said job, I found out later she was a yes woman and she just did what people didn't want to do for low pay. They did give her a raise when my one company went out of business but a month later I they cut it when I got a new job.

Fastforward she is talking to another guy, makes up a story about needing surgery and cannot go on the family trip. I catch her she rushes it, she fails and I file for divorce. I have all the evidence its amazing and living in a state with fault I hit her with adultery. On 12/3 I confront her on what I found and she attacks me, I get my son call the cops they come over, they let her leave, she tries to say my son is unsafe the cop says no she leaves. Few days later she shows back up, the car we have my father is the cosigner, he says you can use it but the car does not go to your parents it stays here. If you want to stay there they can pick you up and drive you. Her dad argues with mine, and admits if the it was reversed her dad would have done the same thing.

Now I have my son prior to the temporary orders hearing 70% of the time, during this time she runs to her parents, pays none of the bills, the house her phone the loans we have together for the debt consolidation. Her parents get her a new phone, their argument is her safety, I said well we got one for her and her daughter when we were married and the house is still joint so she owes on it.

In January after talking to my lawyer, I get on bumble. I do this to get back out there since I have been with my STBXW for 7 years and married about 5. Her friend sees me on the app and in 10 min i get a call asking my son who is at my house. The next day her friends come over they start messing with the house, she is on her way. I ask them what are they doing, her old co worker little coward says I am here to pick up so and so. I said you know we are going through divorce why show up here? He freaks out my arm gets stuck I get run over. ( he did get charged and I did get the max settlement) now to the insurance company he pretty much told the truth and thats good for me, she set it up.

We go to TO, I requested financial help like she pays me out her phone and her share , 50/50 for my son and we split the daycare. When it was all said and done I still paid 1200 more. Remember she is living expense free with her parents. Her lawyer paints me as the bad guy, im evil and a danger, and then they focus on the car, judge ignores it says property and reimbursements will be handled at mediation. She wanted drug tests, I would see my son once a month for 2 hours, my friends get drug tested i get a psyc exam and take a parenting class. The judge denies all of it, now she did lie about working to get primary, yet she post everything on social media so found out. She was awarded base child support, but I ended up getting laid off a week later so I filed a modification before the first payment was due, and she over the parenting app admitted shes working a job with no pay. Texas does not like that, child support is to help the child not fund her lifestyle. Over the parenting app she asks me to pay her Venmo and such, I told her the modification is pending and the orders have not been signed, her lawyer is something and I tried to make a payment with the AG's office but cannot. Never pay by venmo.

That is the back story, but now when I hear from her she is always fishing for something, she will storm the house with a story about my son then it turns into something else.

Last few were our son told me you are dating, I was like he is three dont bring that up with him, she says I dont he talks about it. I have never brought a woman around him nor talked about it. Then she makes this comment:

"you need to get over me and move on, move on and get over me idk why you are still thinking about me"

I told her I dont I divorced you and sent you a fair settlement, you are the one dragging this on not paying and lying about mediation saying we waived it.

In the parenting app which she brings up stuff unrelated to our son, she makes those statements.

Someone please break that down, does she think Im gonna just drop everything? No Im done I want out and want the best for my son.