[TW: SA] Does talking about this make me a bad person?

I am a cis man who was raped by a trans woman years ago. It happened before her egg cracked so she identified and presented publicly as a man when it happened, I found out about her transition later. I feel like I'm not allowed to talk about this and pretend it never happened because if I did I'd be feeding the transphobic stereotype that all trans women are predators (which I don't believe, for the record,) and for the good of our community I should just never acknowledge it or pretend it had been consensual but that doesn't stop it from tearing me up inside.