I think Amanda told Ciara and Lindsay repeatedly about Kyle’s DJ situation and her misery and continually said “Kyle would never listen to me. He’d probably sooner listen to you guys.” and either encouraged them to float it or they took it upon themselves, or production nudged it. I keep seeing people ripping Ciara and Lindsay for overstepping but Amanda is literally grey rocking kyle and saying nothing to him. I agree, not their place and I was shocked Ciara brought it up at all but Ciara could’ve thought she was jumping on the grenade by bringing it up to kyle first, so he could crash out at her, and then maybe warm up to it. I could see amanda saying “he’ll flip out on me if I say it.. maybeee if you said it”. IMO anyone who tells Lindsay something atp ***wants it brought up on camera.*** Amanda knows she’ll be the naggy wife if she brings it up and could’ve said it in therapy if she was worried about his reaction, but didn’t. Also people saying Lindsay needs to stay out of their marriage are also saying West was right to intervene, and are forgetting that every single couple in the house puts their shit on full display when they come on. Lindsay and everett, Carl and Lauren, Carl and Paige, Craig and Paige, Kyle and Amanda, Ciara and West, Jesse and Lexi, need I go on?? It’s a reality tv show. someone has to move the plot forward and Amanda has apparently blocked Kyle irl. I can’t imagine my spouse absolutely losing their shit and i’m laughing. Absolutely not condoning ANYONES behavior here, but I think it’s weird to hold them to standards of your regular friend group. They kinda can’t stay out of each others business. 

IMO Amanda is orchestrating.