Rejected again, feeling so lonely with my husband sleeping next to me

Hello everyone, I wore the sexiest lingerie I have and I couldn't get any reaction from him. I’m lying in bed next to my husband right now while he’s fast asleep… and I feel so incredibly lonely, frustrated, pent up and rejected again.

We’ve been married for 23 years and have 3 kids. For most of our marriage the bedroom was really good. But after our last child everything slowly changed. Now I’m lucky if we’re intimate once every two months, and even then it’s usually just me focussing on him.

I’ve tried talking to him about it, but I never seem to find the right words. Every time I bring it up he gets defensive and angry. He accuses me of making him feel like less of a man or says I’m just too needy. It stings so deeply every single time. I try so hard to be a good wife and make his life easier, but nothing ever feels good enough.

Right now I’m lying here next to him, feeling unwanted and alone in my own marriage. I don’t want him to feel like a lesser man, but I also can’t keep ignoring my own feelings and needs. I keep wondering if I really am too needy. I feel soon terribly frustrated and pent up.