Was this a rude thing for my therapist to say ?

I just started therapy for OCD & AUDHD with a therapist who specializes and lives with all three.

For context: I have severe health OCD and tend to end up on google and Reddit rabbit holes reading about symptoms, so she told me when I feel the need to do that - text her any time as a part of my therapy plan so I have been texting her pretty often and got the vibe that I was bothering her , so I asked if I crossed a boundary and she said I didn’t and she would let me know if I did.

Today I was texting her about my next session and to pick up some reptiles and their enclosures that she is offered to rehome to me.

In response to me asking about a plan ( Autism- rigid in routines , need to know everything before I do something to lessen cognitive load) she says, “I really can’t attend to how to move the cages right now. I’m sure it will be a lot of work. Maybe you could research that on Reddit?” After explicitly telling me to try to avoid Reddit for the time being .

At first, I didn’t think much of it but the more I thought about it , it seems kind of rude and flippant considering the OCD, but on the other hand, I wonder if she’s just trying to give me something positive to research on Reddit .

Reddit , please help me. I’m new to therapy and I genuinely can’t tell if this was rude or not lol

Posted May 6, 2026, 11:16 PM UTC

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