AIO: friend and roommate treating me as a convenience instead of a friend

Am I overreacting?

Me and my friend (lets call them X) have been friends since highschool for over 10 years. We moved in together last year. At first it was normal.

X has always been quite in her own world, since until she moved out for university, everything in her life and family seemed to have all attention focused on her. My issue is, has she been a bad friend lately or am I overreacting?

As I mentioned, she has always been quite self absorbed in her life and own world. When I would be traveling or studying in university, and her friends would ask about me, she would tell them wrong info because she couldn't remember correctly and didn't care to ask about what was going on with me.

She tells me a lot about her life still, but she never asks about anything happening with me. I know most things happening in her life, because she chooses to share and I also ask her about it. But she will never ask about my life. Often I am happy to listen and not talk about myself because I don't have much to say, but sometimes I would like to be asked. And it seem's very trivial to be upset about such a thing, but when she spends the whole day with other friends, and then calls them for 3 hours when she gets home, it is hurtful. She also got a new boyfriend recently, which has made it worse, as (like many people at the beginning of relationships do) she has become completely absorbed in this new relationship, and completely neglected the friendship. But this has been developing for quite some time before the relationship, I just think this recent development was my tipping point in realizing I need to discuss it with her.

If we were not roommates, I would assume that this is just friendship drifting apart, and likely blame it on my lack of maintaining it. But in this situation I feel like an object of convenience for her to have around to organize and maintain everything in the apartment and to listen to her and give her advice, but under appreciated in the friendship realm, of being heard or even just cared about. I am happy to listen to her talk about her life, but sometimes I would also like to be asked how I am or what is happening in my life, and not just be there as a convenience for her.

I plan to talk to her about this, but she is quite sensitive and I worry she will either take it to heart or it will make things awkward for a bit. I am also quite non-confrontational (seeing as why I am making my first reddit post), and would worry that she will now do these things out of a chore, instead of realizing that she may have been being a bad friend and therefore changing her actions because she would like to be better.

So am I overreacting here or am I in the right for feeling hurt by this?