APs being threatened by other parents

God, I can't tell you how insanely emotional my mother gets when her kids develop relationships with other maternal figures, especially if they're someone she detests. She feels like she's being replaced as a mom. I literally can't say that I love hanging out with my aunt (someone my mom hates) without her telling me that my aunt is a "fake bitch who's only putting on a show for you". Although to be fair, this specific aunt is a huge narcissist. My mom has similar narcissistic qualities like this aunt, but it sucks that she does not have the emotional capacity to be told that.

I have a different aunt I like but my mom also hates: My dad's SIL. I'm not super close with my dad's side of the family. When I was living in a different state a few years ago, my aunt and uncle lived close by. Although we were not super close in terms of having a close relationship, I felt like I bonded with my aunt over certain things I could never with my mom. She's such a well-adjusted person and I can see how good of a mom she is to my cousin. Yes, there have been so many times that I have secretly wished that she was my mother.

After hanging out with them and when I got back to my apartment, my mom would call and ask how was it and all that. Then, she would definitely make some snippy remark about them. If I'm being honest, I think she is justified in hating them because they were pretty rude to her. But please let me enjoy my time with them.

I'm sure many of you have experienced the kind of thing where you tell your mom something like "My friend's mom doesn't do that." And they respond with "Oh why don't you go be their kid?"

LOL if I ever said "This person is like a 2nd mom to me", I would get my fucking ass whooped!

Here's another big thing. My mom loves giving advices about things, even if she's not super knowledgable about it. She will give unsolicited advice whether you like it or not. She correlates her worth as a person to people taking her advice. I remember she told me not to do something and I didn't listen. But when someone else (another person she hates) told me the same thing, I took it more seriously. Yeah, my mom took it as a major slap in the face. Here's the thing: Advice is more meaningful if more than one person confirm the same thing. But yeah okay, please go off mother.