Does my husband use Coercive Control, a form of Rape / Sexual Assault?

Ok here goes,

I am new to this community and last night I posted in a different community asking if my husband is controlling. After explaining what happens a few replies were in fact - Rape.

Basically my husband of 17 years and we have been together for 20 years makes me feel guilty, tries to bribe me and will get extremely angry/grumpy and his personality changes to the most horrible man ever and will pick a fight over anything at all if we don’t have sex for maximum 3 days.

Now I understand that people have needs but I am a mother of 3 children (2 under 5 years old) We had a business which is in the process of administration and to top it off myself and kids got caught up in the Dubai War situation.

Even after the birth of my children (All C section’s) I have had to tell him to be patient with me as I can barely move let alone be intimate. I would then get - I want to feel close to you blah blah.

When it comes around to “doing the deed” or even just lying in bed and I am exhausted my eyes are shut I get woken up by him banging around to wake me up so we can be intimate as I have promised him and i probably do promise him from the night before we would have sex the night after if i have fallen asleep.

He will purposely try and keep me awake or fight and shout at me until all hours of the night / morning until I give in or he will tell me the marriage is over as I can’t meet his needs etc and sometimes he actually leaves the room and sleeps downstairs in-fact one evening he left the house altogether.

Has anyone else gone through this? It is playing on my mind.