yapper alert!!! tldr: sometimes a fight is a win if u handle it like adults and care about each other <333

i'm (25nb) currently crashing with my gf (24f) after my last lease ended in an insanely evil roommate situation. we live well together for the most part, but we have a lot of changes and new stressors in both of our lives rn (health, school/work, moving, etc) and there have been a couple times we've clashed over stuff recently.

i've been craving fried pickles sooooo bad lately (period just started) and rly wanted to make them. she's rly passionate about cooking, it's definitely her thing but she said she didn't want to deal with deep frying today. i said ok, i'll do it and clean up, i don't mind bc i rly want them!

she came in the kitchen to make smth else, and once she finished i ended up feeling like she was watching me under a microscope. she didn't say anything to me directly, but it was visibly stressing her out whenever i did something imperfectly or different than she would've, even though my way was still totally passable and safe. i understand that it's her kitchen and it's an important thing to her, but i'm a grown adult who can cook safely and competently! it started to feel a little demeaning, and definitely kind of bruised my ego.

i spoke up and shared that i was upset, and we had a really awesome, open conversation about it! she apologized for projecting her stress onto me by taking it out on watching me so closely, and reassured me that she thinks i'm competent in the kitchen and in general (without me having to ask). i really felt heard and LISTENED TO in my feelings, which is suuuuuch a refreshing and beautiful and amazing feeling!!!!!! 

i have a recent ex and even more recent ex-bestfriend (evil roommate) who both used me as an emotional punching bag and shut me down HARD every time i'd try to talk about how they treated me. both of my current relationships are so much the opposite of those 2 awful people, they care so much about me and how i'm feeling 24/7/365. i care SOOO FUCKING DEEPLY about everyone i let close to me, and it feels so fucking good to finally have that returned.

my gf and i worked everything out in not even 20 minutes, now she's at hema practice and i'm crying into my fried pickles about how much i love her <333  they came out awesome btw and yes she loved them too lol \^\_\^

so grateful for partners who care about my feelings :)))