Why so difficult ?

Why so difficult? 60s(m) married to an amazing 40s(f). Why is so difficult to find a couple bi/gay males that want to play with my wife and I? I have tried all the subs. Not sure if I’m being too picky or what but wow it’s frustrating. Ideally I want both the males to do me as my wife watches and directs the action then she joins in on the fun. What am I doing wrong??