Am I overreacting?

Hello! I was searching for a sub I could post on and get some advice from, and I did cross post. I just newly turned 17(f) and I started my service job at Starbucks back in October of last year, so it’s been roughly 7 months. I love my job and I love my coworkers, I have wanted this job for four years now and was so ecstatic to get it. Now onto the issues.

I am employed with a number of people you can count on two hands, not many, mostly males in college. One of the older college boys, I’ll call him Beau, is 21. He had some issues with his gf and ever since he begged her back after she cheated he has been a total a-hole. He has made me uncomfortable and has been rude to everyone. My coworkers meant to confront him last night but never got around to it. I made a list of some of the things he has done that they could bring up:

- Him with (one of my best friends) making fun of young girls, saying “imagine looking down and not being able to see ur feet” (again CHILDREN) and he was like “come on say smth, ik u have some hate in ur heart and want to say smth”
- him calling me pretty and saying my makeup looks good (with that being the first thing he said that day)
- not that bad but he keeps comparing me to his gf and saying how we’re very similar type thing (reminder, he said this with a 5 yea age difference)
- him talking about my “obsession with children” and me not being able to have them and I shouldn’t cuz HE’LL get bullied (I have a 19f girlfriend)
- there were new female hires and he sai d he hopes they’re pretty because everyone that works with us isn’t (said I was) and he said (male college coworker) would agree the girls up front are better looking than here
- him saying “you don’t do ___ because you’re a woman” and also yelling/cursing at me for like simple things, example: I shouldn’t have let the water heat up all the way I can feel when it’s hot?
- he never does his work at all just stands there on insta reels and plays video games

That’s just what I thought of at 10:30 last night. May not be a big deal, but in the grand scheme of things has made me uncomfortable, especially with how much he talks about me and his gf in the same sentence. Also, he outed me to my uncle (extremely conservative family) and laughed when I told him how serious it was and how much trouble I would be in.

Any ideas for what I should do? (Parents don’t know)

Posted May 6, 2026, 11:25 PM UTC

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