31M in a dead bedroom relationship

Hello, I’m looking to chat with anyone about any topic. My wife and I are dead in the bedroom and she absolutely does not want to explore intimacy at a deeper level. When we do have relations it’s always vanilla missionary and there’s constant complaining. I have no hard limits on whats allowed and I’m happy to chat and discuss things with anyone. Dirtier the better as I’m hoping to get some outlet for what I’m lacking at home.