33 [M4A] Toledo - wife and I have been thinking of swinging - any experience out there ?

My wife and I have been talking about possibly diving deeper into the swinging lifestyle. We have been to a couples night at a club before and had others watch us which is super exciting. We think we want to start flirting and taking steps with other couples but still coming up with our boundaries. I love to hear from others with experience with the lifestyle and know how they got started or people who find it hot