AITAH for being upset that my boyfriend thinks I’m like my friend when I go out?

I (26f) have a boyfriend (27m), and very time I go out with my friends, we end up arguing. Either before or after.

When we argue before he’s accusing me of picking fights so I can meet other guys. But really it’s usually him saying something about how many guys will be there.

For example; I’m going out tomorrow and of course he started saying the usual “your friend is probably gonna be hooking up with guys so people are gonna be hitting on you” and “your joint at the hip so you’re gonna be around her even if she’s with guys etc”

Last night my friend went on a first date and I made the mistake of telling him they slept together “I only said this because I struggled to sleep” this friend, we’ll call Layla(27f), is not someone who sleeps around. She doesn’t do one night stands and the 3 years we’ve been friends she’s slept with 2 people.

On the phone today he called my friend a derogatory name (h*e) because she slept with someone on a first date, and I defended her.
I said you have no right to disrespect my friend that way, in which he replied “omg you’ve known her for two minutes” obvs not true as it’s been 3 years like I said. We literally live together and have for almost a year now.

Then he said I was going to act like her when we go out tomorrow. which I found super offensive. Considering I’m in a relationship is one thing so he’s indirectly calling me a cheater, and second even if I was single I have very different morals to Layla. So I’m just so disappointed by how mean hes been to both me and my friend behind her back. She’s not a big fan of him and I can see why in times like this.
I have screenshots of the whole conversation after this phone call where he was interrogating the narrative of how tomorrow is going to go. Mind you I’m going with a group and any of the guys coming are gay or in a relationship with their girlfriends coming also.

Previously if I’ve gone out and forgot to text him when I’m home (im a sleepy drunk when I see my bed it’s over, not an excuse and I’ve been making more effort to text him when I’m home)
Last time this happened my phone literally died while I was out for Laylas birthday, but I texted him when I was on 1% to let him know. When it died I tried to ask the bar staff for a charger but they didn’t have one so I couldn’t message him until I got home and my phone switched on but because of my slow charger once my phones dead, it takes forever to switch on and I fell asleep and texted him in the morning. He wasn’t impressed but my issue is he accused me of staying at a guys house that night. Even though my night was ruined worrying about getting battery or texting and I kept disassociating.

I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive and I’m in the wrong, or if he’s being unfair. We’ve been on and off for 4 years. He joined the army and I felt a positive difference and wanted to give this a good try bc I love him so much and believe he loves me too… but it’s things like this that pushed us apart so often.

TLDR;
My boyfriend called my friend a hoe for sleeping with someone on the first date and said me going out with her will rub off on me too.