Advice, please!!!!

Please help/give advice. Do you agree mom at least has narc tendencies??

Mom shaming me for wanting to give up breastfeeding even though she gave it up after 3 months max.

Telling me not to let my baby cry (when I sit the baby down to just go pee) even though she lets her cry when she’s supposed to be watching her.

Shaming me for “sleeping too much” as in 8-9 hours when she would sleep all night and take between 1-2 naps throughout the day..

Telling me I need to get my baby on a schedule literally not even a whole week after coming home with her

Telling me since fiancé supports me financially, I need to have him a hot meal on the stove for dinner every day.

Telling me “I had five kids to take care of and I still did everything around the house and cooked,” after I told her it’s overwhelming to deal with a colicky, screaming baby and cook a whole dinner, every evening.

Me finding out she told people in our family that watching me give birth “turned her stomach” and it was “so gross.”

Telling me my baby is fine to sleep over at her house, but if she finds out she’s sleeping over at MIL/FIL’s house, she’ll be mad at us & we can’t come back until the baby does. Saying she stays sick to her stomach when the baby stays with my mil/fil.

Constantly telling me about jobs hiring, even though my fiancé (getting married this year) has repeatedly said he’s covering baby & I financially and to not worry about the stress of a job right now. (I have savings of my own)

Finding out my sister and her are constantly talking about me behind my back. Then mom denied doing so (despite me literally seeing texts) saying “I wouldn’t do that. That’s triangulation.”

Pp has been difficult mentally, especially, and I’m finding it hard not to feel isolated even further by my own family.
She’s not understanding ppa/ppd and wondering why I’m in a “funk” and not understanding because she “was over the moon when I had mine.”