I feel in over my head -- 33F, dad with Parkinsons, assisted living?
Hi there,
I am back in my hometown (I'm out of state) visiting my dad who has Parkinsons (I think he may be in Stage 2 or 3 though I don't know for sure as the only person I have to communicate with me what's going on with him is...him.)
Anyway I'm 33 years old, my dad is turning 76 and I don't have any family to help me navigate this situation. While I am down here I am noticing that it's time my dad gets help with his day to day living. He is okay living alone right now but I think he's starting to get to his limit -- he has abandoned all cooking so he eats out for every meal, it takes him a very very long time to put on his clothes and to do anything, cleaning/maintaining the house is hard on him and hurts his bad back and his trembling hands have gotten worse so when he eats it's just harder. Everything is slower, harder and more grueling. I have no idea how he still drives, but he does.
During this visit it's been clear to me that we need to start getting him to some form of care. I am extremely overwhelmed though. At first i figured he just needs an assisted living place with the option to have a continuum of care as his Parkinsons progresses? but I have no idea where to start. I called an agency and I realized quickly they were AI bots/scammers, so then I figured OK I'll just google ones nearby but then some of them have very little info and require a lot of info just to send me a brochure.
I'm just overwhelmed and I need internet parents....What steps should I do here?? Especially since I'm normally in a different state than him. How do we find him reputable, legit assisted living places? He lives in Florida so the options are also just....everywhere. The good and the bad and I am overwhelmed. I
I know what a few basics of what he needs: a place that is knowledgable on his condition, has a continuum of care and also offers bilingual services (he mostly speaks Spanish and very very little English). Any help or insight would be appreciated!
Posted May 8, 2026, 3:47 PM UTC