28M dating 26F, first time dating in life and need advice on pacing
I’m 28M and currently dating a 26F. We’ve gone on two dates so far and both were good. I genuinely enjoyed spending time with her.
This is honestly my first real dating experience, so I’m still figuring things out and sometimes overthinking small things.
I like her, but I also don’t want to come across as too intense or desperate. I’m trying to understand what healthy pacing looks like in early dating.
Some things I’m unsure about:
How often should I text between dates?
How do I show genuine interest without overdoing it?
When do compliments/flirting start feeling natural instead of forced?
How do you usually tell if she is comfortable and interested?
When to kiss and any hints and other sexual tensions?
Is it okay to admit you’re inexperienced in dating, or is that better kept private early on?
What small things make it feel appreciated and comfortable in early dating?
I’m not trying to “make her fall in love” or play games. I want her to have this feeling about me, " I can't live without you" (blushing while writing this). Love comes naturally I know and it can't be forced upon but I genuinely want to know how to make her madly fall in love :) .
I just want to build a genuine connection and avoid mistakes that could make it bad, (I don't want to be creepy too) because I’m new to all.
Looking forward to your advice and suggestions. And give all kinds of tips coz it's my first time and I am dumb.
Thank you :)
Posted May 8, 2026, 3:49 PM UTC