Need relationship clarity

Salam! I understand the following may be haram but I planned on marrying this girl in 2024 and am still waiting. Please be considerate when answering as I think the best choice for me is to break things off.

Have been dating this girl for 2 years now, she is a Muslim desi and I am a Muslim revert from a Non Muslim family. On my side of things my family knows I have a girlfriend who I plan on marrying ( or so i thought). On her end her mother still does not know of me or even how I look and it’s been 2 years. I met her dad just last year 2025 and asked him to his face if I will ever meet his wife, and he said he will work on it. It has been almost 8 months now and promises have fallen through the roof. I think emotionally this is draining me, for someone successful, multiple degrees why can’t I meet her mother? Is it simply because I am not of her same culture? I am starting to thing I am being played and it seems inevitable of the fact. Will I be a bad person if I decide to break things off with her? I know we shouldn’t date but the only reason I talked to her was because I demanded she spoke to her father about me before we started talking, and so she did. But after 2 years of no progress it seems that there is no future here anymore.