My Best Friend Lives States Away

And all I want is to be there for him without suffocating him, but because of how defective I am, I feel like I struggle to know how to be there for him without going into fix it mode. I just want his pain to go away, I want him to just catch a break. I want all of his hard work, resilience, selflessness, empathy, softness, patience, forgiveness, and understanding to benefit HIM for once. I want him to be able to love life again. I want him to see how HE got himself from rock bottom to figuring out how to be a responsible and self sufficient adult. I want him to be able to see that he is a good dad. I want him to be able to see himself through my eyes. I just want him to stop hurting.

How do I even do that when he’s states away? How do I do that when we both have the same problem, and I don’t even know how to help myself? How do I not carry this for him, but rather walk with him while he carries it? I love him so much and he’s such a special person. I just want to help.