Surgery questions

Reading here makes me feel like reherniation, and more issues after surgery are the norm and that I shouldn’t get the surgery.
I need it, I am bed ridden and have been for almost 3 months but I feel like I need to tough it out instead of getting the surgery that the doctor claims is life changing.
I am also terrified of the after pain since I can’t take opiate meds.

Is it all doom and gloom?

How many of you just took Tylenol or ibuprofen afterwards and had success from surgery?

If reherniation only occurs in 10% statistically then why does it seem like more on here?