Naming my baby the same name as my friends baby

So I have a friend (who I will call Samantha). We used to be very close in high school and college. She was one of my bridesmaids. We have barely spoken over the last couple years due to just having different interests, etc. When we run into each other in public we get a long, but we just don’t organize hanging out.

Well, she just found out she was pregnant, late in pregnancy. I am also pregnant, but it’s early and I’m not ready to announce after my last miscarriage. Unrelated to Samantha and her pregnancy, I was with a group of mutual friends and they were talking about how boy names are hard. I agreed and read through my list of boy names that I have saved in my phone, because there is a list of 20 names but none don’t love any of them. I got to the girls name and I was like “this one’s easy, it’s gonna be (insert name)”. (Keeping the name private to make this as anonymous as I can).

She said, “that’s what Samantha is naming her baby”. I was devastated. I feel so upset because I have wanted to name my baby the same name for YEARS. She had to know. It was my cars name when we were close friends. Like, I have loved it for forever. It is not a common name and it would totally seem like I am copying her if I name my baby the same thing. Especially if they grow up knowing each other and our city is not that big… and we have lots of mutual friends. My baby would be born 5 months after hers…

After I found out, I called a close friend, mom, and sister to tell them that she is also using this name- since I was so upset about it (they know I’m pregnant). Samantha ended up calling me that evening just to tell me about the pregnancy since we hadn’t spoken about it yet. We also hadn’t had a phone call in maybe a year. I told her that it was funny that we like the same name and that we have good taste, and I told her the story about how I was reading my baby name list and said the girls name and was told that is what she was naming her baby. She just laughed and seemed totally okay with me also using the same name. I didn’t tell her I was pregnant. But she knows I have been trying for years after our loss.

I feel like it’s super shitty to copy the same name. She said it would be okay but maybe she is just being nice. I am also pretty mad cause there’s no way she didn’t know I wanted to name my baby the same name. I looked back through my messages with my husband and we have been using that as our future baby name since 2020… and I named my car I had from 2015-2018 that same name.

I have been trying to think of another girl name and I just don’t like any as much. What should I do?