Tiktok where a guy talks about loved ones being (emotionally) careless

Two or three years ago I saw a tiktok (or possible insta video) where a young black guy (iirc) said something along these lines:

“I know you didn’t mean for what you did to hurt me, but it still hurt me. And knowing that it might have hurt me, the fact that you did it at all feels careless. And the fact that you could be that careless [hurts more] …(etc)”

It’s definitely a few sentences longer than that, & I totally butchered it - but it was such fantastic, validating wording!
I’m not sure if he was quoting something or is the originator of the sentiment.
I always want to share it with people when they’re excusing other’s actions at their own expense, but I’ve never been able to find it.