Wish there was a way to find a qpr partner, it seems impossible to survive in this economy

It’s the constant regular miserable spiral of “I can’t afford to live ‘comfortably’ and buy a house on a single income” hand-in-miserable-hand with “all my friends eventually find someone more important to them than me, get married, and now I’m alone.”

I (31 nb) would love nothing more than to find my best friend, get married, move in together, and retire together. Completely platonic, with separate bedrooms and a shared living space, but it feels like that’s never going to happen.

There’s just no common space for aroace people to meet up irl or online. And yes I’ve tried AceSpace, it’s absolutely dead.

I’m so jealous that heterosexual people seem to be able to just go from person to person and date around for a while and find their person, while the aroace pool of people is infinitesimal and scattered across the world with little to no way to find eachother. Like if I was able to platonic date person after person in my area, YEAH I’d probably be able to find the right person for me, but it feels like in the actual real world any success stories I hear about qpr couples are truely unicorn level rare.

Genuinely I wish I could just skip forward to finding someone to pool funds with, share a life, and prioritize. Like aro ace mail order spouse PLEASE.