My(25f) boyfriend(33m) suddenly became distant and made comments about money/class after seeing where I live, what does this mean?
so when i first met my boyfriend i lived in a different city and the place i lived in back then was beautiful and in a really nice neighborhood. but recently i had to move back with my mom and we live in this apartment she bought several years ago after separating from my dad. but recently, whenever i see my boyfriend, its always in his city or we meet half way since we live like two hours away from each other. he hadn’t seen where i was currently staying since he doesn’t come over since he says i “live far”, and last night he asked me for my location and i gave it to him.
ever since then, he’s been acting so cold with me and distant with me and making all these weird classist comments. he started to brag about how his parents have so many properties and how they’re always on vacation and spend an exorbitant amount of money on material things. then, for the first time in the relationship, he suddenly stopped replying to my messages for HOURS and the only thing he texted me was him saying how he’s “afraid to date outside of his budget” and that the “best women” are “expensive women” and that his BIGGEST fear is not being to satisfy an “expensive woman”. and then he subtly implied how he was just settling for me.
i feel so heartbroken and confused, i obviously don’t have any proof that he’s actually feeling some type of way because of my living situation but those comments all hit me so hard.. especially since he had been acting really loving with me.. i didn’t expect him to care that bad cuz he also lives with family (grandma & cousin) in a much tinier place than my own, but he always brags about how he doesn’t pay a single bill while living in the most expensive city in california. and suddenly he’s making all these classist comments and avoiding me.
i’m hurting so much, i feel like i did a mistake by sharing my location but i just felt like i have nothing to hide and now he’s acting icy with me.. everything in my head is just screaming at me to leave him over this but i also feel like that would be an overreaction since he has never acted this way towards me..
Posted May 11, 2026, 5:23 AM UTC