this might be an unpopular opinion, but the “it’s YOUR responsibility to heal” just feels so.. ugh

of course I know it’s my responsibility to heal, but people usually say this in the context of it’s not your fault but you need to take accountability and start healing. It just feels so dismissive like it’s the easiest thing in the world to heal like this shit is not linear and will take years and years. It’s not that simple and the people who usually say this, usually do it in such a way that you can tell that they’re saying it in bad faith.