28 switch looking for a switch-leaning Dom to explore submission within a switch dynamic — online, Europe, long-term

Hello 🙂

About me

I’m 28, Italian, based in the UK, non-binary, he/they, bisexual, and a switch. I’ve been involved in kink for around 10 years and have explored both sides, though I’ve been mostly Dom over the past couple of years.

I’m in a long-term relationship. My partner knows I do online kink and is okay with it, but they do not want to be involved. Any dynamic would need to respect that. This is something I do in my own spare time.

What I’m seeking

I’m looking for a serious and possibly long-term online kinky/BDSM play partner, aged 18–35. I’m a switch, and I’m looking for a switch dynamic rather than a fixed one-sided role.

That said, at this point I’m especially interested in exploring my submissive side more deeply with the right person. I’m happy to guide, or take a more dominant role sometimes, but I don’t want a dynamic where I’m expected to primarily lead, perform, or default into being the Dom.

Ideally, I’d like something where roles can shift naturally depending on trust, mood, chemistry, and what we both want. I’m especially drawn to dynamics where I can be guided, desired, cared for, and given space to submit, while still keeping room for mutual switching when it feels right.

For me, kink is not just sexual. It is also about trust, vulnerability, connection, self-exploration, and communication. I’m looking for something respectful, honest, and mutually fulfilling.

What kind of switch I am

I’m a switch, but I’m not looking for a rigid 50/50 split or a dynamic where I’m mostly expected to Dom. I’ve been mostly Dom over the past couple of years, so I’m now very interested in reconnecting with my submissive side while still keeping the possibility of switching open.

As a Dom, I’m caring, attentive, and collaborative. I don’t enjoy punishment-based dynamics. I prefer things to be discussed and co-created beforehand, with clear boundaries and mutual enjoyment.

I also enjoy softer care or gentle sessions, with praise, encouragement, guidance, and a more affectionate tone.

As a sub, I’m open-minded, curious, and drawn to service, but I need trust, reciprocity, and balance. I’m very visual, so mutual visual presence matters to me once trust has been established, whether that is pictures, video, or live camera.

I’m not looking for one-sided dynamics where I am the only one sending things, the only one on camera, or the only one being visually present. I prefer things to feel balanced, including similar levels of clothing, effort, communication, and pleasure that includes orgasms.

Availability and platforms

This would need to fit around real life, work, and my relationship. I don’t expect constant availability, but I do value consistency, honesty, and communication.

I’m based in the UK, so I would prefer someone in or close to my time zone, ideally UK/Europe or with enough overlap for regular communication and play.

I’m also happy to have some tasks or dares while I’m at work, as long as they are discreet, realistic, safe for the context, and within agreed limits. I like the idea of keeping a dynamic present in small ways during the day, without it interfering with work or involving anyone else.

More details in DM for chatting and online cam/play session apps.

Likes and limits

My likes, limits, and more details are in my pinned on my profile.

First message

When messaging me, please include your age, sex/gender, location or time zone, your likes and limits, a bit about yourself, and what you are looking for.

I’m much more likely to reply to messages that show you have read the post and can communicate clearly.

Final note

Before we are Dom, sub, switch, or anything else, we are people. Even online, respect, consent, aftercare, and safety matter.